When I was younger, I did anything and EVERYTHING to avoid my hair from being curly. Sometimes, I would let my aunt apply the relaxer on my hair. Every time she would apply it, IT BURNED SO MUCH. I really felt like my scalp was on FIREEEEE!

I still remember the feeling. So if you are ever thinking about applying relaxer to your hair, DO NOT DO IT. I REPEAT, DO NOT DO IT!! It was honestly one of the worst decisions I ever made.

Another way of avoiding my natural curls was straightening my hair. It almost felt a whole day to straighten my hair. LONGER HAIR = 167267691 hours to straighten. Even when I straighten my hair, most of the time I would burn my scalp by mistake. Let me tell you my scalp is a warrior!! I’m so surprised I am not bald right now, HAHAHA!

I always wished that I had straight hair. I barely had friends who had the same hair type as me so I was not able to vent my struggle on maintaining my hair. Eventually, I realized that no matter how much I straightened my hair that it will never be perfectly straight compared to girls who have naturally straight hair. I wanted my hair to get to this level:

Unfortunately, we can’t always get what we want so I just had to live with this fact. So, it was a slow process of accepting my hair. My most favorite hairstyle to wear was a bun. This hairstyle is able to hide what type of hair I have. If I had worn my hair naturally I would usually tie it up instantly because it would just annoy me. It would be “unnecessarily big.” I HATED WHEN MY HAIR HAD A LOT OF VOLUME.

I focused too much on the idea of changing something that could not be changed (no matter how hard I tried). You all are probably wondering why I even told you this, LOL! So I’ll tell you why…

Society convinces us of what is perfect versus what is not. We always believe that our uniqueness is not perfect. But in reality, it is one of the things that makes us part of who we are. I made it a priority to change my hair when I should have made myself a priority.

To anyone who is reading this, make yourself a PRIORITY whether it’s with relationship/friendships or in life in general. We focus too much on fixing ourselves instead of just embracing what is already there.

My curly hair is a sign for me to never change who I am regardless of the things that I disliked about myself.  I learned to accept every part of me. Trying to be perfect was a waste of time since being perfect does not exist.  No one is perfect. In the trailer video, she mentions that “her hair is her second job.” I felt that way as well. I always did my hair by myself wondering if people would say something negative about it. Most importantly, I should have cared about how I wanted to wear my hair.

Moral of the story: Accept yourself because if you do not then no one will. No matter how hard you try to be perfect it is just going to waste your time and energy. Also, do not live up to others’ expectations because you will never be happy with yourself. So, be kind to yourself and you will live a happier life!!

HEY GUYS! My blog is to empower everyone to embrace who they are regardless of their flaws or insecurities. By doing that, I will share with you all what I learned through my curly hair journey. It has been a rollercoaster ride trying to find myself while taking into account what others thought about me. For a long time, my curly hair was a MAJOR insecurity of mine. I was blinded to the importance it has on me. My hair and I have a love/hate relationship.

I hope by sharing my experience that it could help you live a life where you don’t have to prove anything to anyone but yourself. Also, the valuable lessons I’ve learned could help you too! I am not saying it will be easy but it will take time. I am not an expert either guys, HAHA!

 

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